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EPISODE 7

MONTHS LATER,
"Congratulations Sir! You are the proud father of twins, a boy and a girl" The doctor announced to Tony with an handshake.
"Thank you! and my wife?" Tony replied.
"Your wife and babies are in perfect health; you'll get to see them soon." The doctor said.
"Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Tony exclaimed excitedly.

Few minutes later, As he set his eyes on Slyvia and held his babies. Tears of joy filled his eyes and his heart was filled with so much love.
A love that had been through the storms and prevailed. A love that even the strings of the past could not pull down. A love that will keep on growing. A love that is patient, kind, not envious, not boastful or proud, not rude or selfish. A love, not easily angered and which keeps no records of wrong. A love that will forever protect, trust, hope and persevere. A love that will never fail. A love that never gives up. A love worth fighting for. Their love that has stood the test of time and produced this wonderful bundles of joy. Definitely, God's kind of love!
Tony smiled, satisfactorily.

     

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EPISODE 6

WEEKS ROLLED BY...
Tony is still unreachable. She couldn't go to his office to ask questions and perhaps, wash her dirty linen outside and Tim had promised to help find out his transfer location but no information yet and Tim hadn't spoken to him since the time he left. She tried to focus on her health issue, job ,masters program and the marriage counselling sessions she was attending because suddenly, the house felt so empty.
Oneday, she got back with Onome from one of her checkups; they met the front door opened.
"You forgot to lock up?" Onome inquired.
"No! How can I? Slyvia replied.
They made their way inside, still surprised. They meet Tony dragging a small box towards the door.
"Hey! Tony!..." Onome called out in surprise.
Slyvia stood there, too surprised to move.
"Hey! Onome! I just came to pick up a few things; sorry for the bother." Tony said, ignoring Slyvia's presence and headed for the door. He stopped and turned when he felt Slyvia's hand touch his; she falls on her knees.
"Am sorry! Tony, really sorry!" Slyvia said with tears in her eyes.
"Slyvia, please don't do this!" Tony said as he raised her up.
"I tried calling; am truely sorry! I love you Tony, very much. I messed up, I behaved badly. I know I have issues and am working on it, I...." Slyvia went on, pleading.
"Slyvia! I have nothing against you. Tony said, face plain.
"Really? you've forgiven me, right? So, we can go back to how we started? Stay at home tonight. I have missed you so much. Em...., You can leave tomorrow". Slyvia said, holding his hand.
"Slyvia! What I mean is that I have moved on, I believe you should have too." Tony replied.
"Tony.... But we are married". Slyvia managed to say.
Tony smiles awkwardly; "it's not worth it. We are better off without each other. We will only hurt each other. Am glad you are doing alright though.
"Tony...,am not alright....." Slyvia said, voice shaking.
"Tony please; she is truely sorry. She knows better now". Onome intervened.
"I have to go. Whatever we shared doesn't matter anymore; I just want to start over. Bye".
He loosens her grip and leaves the house. Slyvia falls on the floor in tears, while Onome comforts her.
 Slyvia laments in anguish "He is gone! I have lost him. He won't forgive me..."
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Days later, Slyvia is in her room; sitting on the floor in tears "Oh Lord! help me! Help Tony forgive me at least!" She holds her chest. "Bring him back to me; I know you can walk through my past and make things right; heal and restore my marriage; let Tony love me again; don't let him give in to another woman"
Her phone beeps; Its a message; she looks at it reluctantly; it was a strange number:- I DON'T KNOW IF I HAVE THE STRENGTH TO GO BACK TO WHAT WE USED TO SHARE BUT I KNOW MY LOVE FOR YOU OUTWEIGHS ANY HURT I MIGHT FEEL. I WANT TO START ALL OVER BUT NOT WITHOUT YOU BY MY SIDE. AM SORRY IF IT SEEMED LIKE I GAVE UP ON US. BUT I AM WILLING TO STAY AND FIGHT FOR OUR LOVE TILL THE END, IF YOU WILL JOIN ME? I LOVE YOU. FROM YOUR HUSBAND.
"Tony!" Slyvia called out in joy as her tears flowed quickly. She tries to compose a reply to him. The door bell rings. She tried to ignore it but it didn't stop. She quickly went to open the door. Tony was standing out there.
"Tony!! Yes! Yes! Yes!" She said as she flings herself into his arms in tears as he wraps her up tightly.
"You left your job to come home and see me?" Slyvia finally managed to say after a while, still hugging him.
Tony laughed "I didn't accept the transfer! You didn't want it so I didn't take it. I just asked for a leave from work. Am all yours."
"Oh Tony!" Slyvia exclaimed again.

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Things went from bad to worse as they became like mere house mates, leading independent lives.
Tony felt pushed out, Slyvia felt cheated.
It is exactly two years; it's their 2nd year anniversary. In the evening; They are at each other's throat again with Onome present in the house.
"You guys should stop this please!" Onome pleaded.
"Why? He had no right to call my dad into our marital issues. Be man enough to handle your problem". Slyvia said angrily.
"You have totally gone crazy. So what if I informed him about what you've turned our marriage into?" Tony attacked.
"Don't you dare push any blame to me? You ruined everything from the
beginning". Slyvia said in her defence.
"Please!....Today is supposed to be a day of celebration. You love each other so....." Onome intervened again.
"Just stay out of this, Onome! Leave love out of this. I don't know why he called you here also". Slyvia fired back at Onome.
"This is your friend who you consider your sister; I needed a solution; someone to talk sense into your head. What else do you want from me? I am seeking a solution here". Tony said, defensively.
"It's your cross anyway. Am not the one that defiled our marital bed". Slyvia accused him.
"Defiled?!!" Tony and Onome said in suprise.
"You dare accuse me?" Tony asked in disbelief.
"You think am stupid, right? Your secret is out. I loved you but No! It's not good enough. Oliver twist! Better don't catch any diseases!
Tony laughs out in disbelief.
"From one thing to another; so infidelity issue is the one I will face today. Onome! Please, talk to your friend; this is not the person I married or better still, I didn't know her very well".
"You are the one I didn't know well. What even made me think I could raise a family with you?"
Onome said out in shock; "Slyvia!....don't.."
"You heard her, right? Fortunately, the feeling is mutual. My children can never come from you too. You're insane! So much for love and  
vows!" Tony answered back.
"Both of you should stop this! Stop hurting each other! Please!.." Onome screamed out.
"Am out of here! Am done! Fed up!"
Tony said, hissed and angrily leaves the house.
"Slyvia, you should apologize to him. Two wrongs don't make a right". Onome advised.
"Over my dead body! I deserve an apology from him. Just stay out of this!" Slyvia replied, hissed and leaves Onome standing there.


Written by BENEDICTA OKENYI

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WEEKS ROLLED BY...
Tony and Slyvia are having a heated argument in their room.
"I don't know what has gotten into you! Tony complained.
"What's gotten into me? Look here Tony, i will not be treated like trash; like your foot mat!" Slyvia blurted out, screaming at the top of her voice.
"Footmat? Where did that come from? I mean, what is my crime this night? It's bad enough that recently all you do is get worked up and irritated. Worse of all, I get back this night; you slipped into your silent treatment, served my meal reluctantly and when we finally speak; you snapped and started nagging". Tony argued back.
"Don't think because you are a man; you can just act anyhow....."
"Just let me sleep in peace! I have a busy day tomorrow" Tony said, trying to cut off the argument. He tucks himself in bed.
"You are just simply selfish; I have equal rights as you....,My feelings should matter also.."
Tony shouted back "Slyvia! Just stop it! I am fed up. No one is disputing your rights. If you have issues about something, why not be plain about it and stop barking?"
"You claim to love me but you lie! I will not die because of you" Slyvia said in rage.
"Fine! You know what? Take the bed! before you drive me crazy!" Tony said as he grabbed a pillow and a bed sheet quickly and barges out of the room fuming.

EPISODE 4
Their incessant quarells continue; Tony is at the office unable to concentrate after their heated quarell the previous night. His colleague, Tim comes in.
"Aren't you having lunch today? Tim asked as he sits on a chair opposite Tony.
"No! Am not hungry". Tony replied bluntly.
"Is this due to the fact that you seem quite off today or Slyvia must have over-fed you this morning?"
Tony hisses in disgust, shaking his head and murmured to himself "when last did my food go down my throat in peace?"
"Hey! What's up, Man? What's going on? Is it work stress?" Tim inquired.
Tony rhetorically said, while staring into thin air; "Did I commit a crime to get married? Don't I perform my duty as a man and husband? Where did all this attitude come from? We can't even discuss normally again.What did I even do last night? Just said I have been listed for a transfer and she flared up".
"Am totally lost! If you can be specific; we can pray about it together". Tim said, looking confused.
Tony burst out in laughter much to Tim's surprise.
"Prayers, right? I sure need the host of angels to join me in prayers. I made a big mistake. Their true colours show after a year of marriage. Tony said, regretfully.
Tony stands up and puts on his suit jacket.
"Tony!......" Tim managed to say, even more confused.
"Please, don't get married Tim; I beg you! Don't try it. Trust me; you'll go mad!" Tony advised. He leaves Tim in the office wondering.
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Source Abusive relationships  can be difficult to spot but will share a few helpful tips that will help both the abused and a friend or relative to the abused to know they are in for danger. Abusive relationships can manifest in different forms either physical, emotional, financial or sexual.  Your friend or sister or daughter who is being abused may find it very difficult to speak up but with these tips i will share here you will be able to identify an abusive relationship.

Hello Vals, if you missed the first part click HERE

4. Miss Big-mouth. I have heard a lot of guys say women talk alot. True, we love to talk. We love expressing our innermost thoughts. Women love to be heard, all you need to do is listen.  There are some women who have a high degree of the talking thing. With this kind of woman you have no plan or secret. She talks about anything and everything.

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You could tell her about your plan to do something 5 minutes ago, and all her circle of friends are already in the know. Every move you make has been known by all her friends and sometimes family. It is absolutely difficult to control such a woman's mouth, she seem to derive pleasure in talking about everything.


Everyone should not know everything about you, but when you have such a woman. Sorry dear! You are in for it. Social media has even made it easier for such a woman, all she needs to do is to send a broadcast to all her friends (Laughs).


Miss Big-mouth, will tell whole world about your weaknesses and strength which could make you vunerable. Be careful.

Every relationship is dynamic, because the two people involved are different. It is not about finding the right person, its about imperfect people who know their weaknesses and are working on themselves to make themselves better. 

I hereby present to you UNHEALTHY WOMEN. If you are new to our UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP SERIES, click HERE. A lot of men have been waiting for this so here, you have it. Don't forget to spread the word. This might Just be the word that someone needs to make a change in their relationship.

Hello darlings, how are you all doing?. I have been having so much fun writing this unhealthy relationship series. If you missed any part you have really missed a lot so quickly click here. 
Are you back? OK, ENJOY

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6. MR CAREER. Being career driven can be a very good thing but not finding a meeting point between your career and relationship is terrible. Ladies, guys who are career driven are workaholics. Every other thing comes second after their career. They are always wanting to climb up one career ladder or the other. 

They are the kind of guys who will tell you to wait for them to become the CEO of their company before you both get married. They will work at the office and still take the remaining work home. They always talk about their jobs or business so much that you both rarely know stuffs about each other. They are ready to sacrifice their relationship, marriage or even family for their career. They are the kind of guys who will be so busy that you will have to remind them to check on you.

This is a part in the UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP SERIES. If you missed the last part, don't worry you didn't miss much, you will just have to click HERE.
I have decided to make this a series because a lot of MEN are demanding they will want to know about UNHEALTHY WOMEN too. Secondly, I honestly will not want my posts to be too long so will be breaking them down into one or two examples per post. ENJOY.

They are just too attached to notice

HELLO SWEETHEARTS, how have you been? I know you have been great and healthy. Thank God you are alive to read this post. I know i have not been so consistent with my posts on this blog. Thank God for you.
Please don't be angry with me, (E ma binu). I have just had a lot going on around me. Gradually am settling and adjusting to life generally. So be ready to hear more from me OK!!!.

Today's post is about men that are unhealthy for us ladies. Some of us have met these kind of men, some are dating them, some are engaged to them, you are even about to get married to one of them this Saturday. Well as for those that are married to them you have our prayers, may God give you grace to keep on being strong. Amen.
 Ladies, you might just have a rethink about your relationship after reading this post.


 As for you MR, you might not fall into any of these category but your friend might just be one or your sister about to marry one.  Don't be stingy just share this post to him/her as a new year gift (laughs). 

Hello my wonderful friends. Thank you so much for all the comments you left in my last post, click HERE if you missed it. Will be elaborating on those comments today. If am not able to finish up will have to split it into two or three parts. May God bless you all for sharing your practical ways with us.

These are ways that have worked for other people, read and enjoy:

 
STAY AWAY FROM IDLENESS
 If the Devil finds a Man idle, he'll get him a job. While we were growing up we were told severally that an idle man is the devil's workshop/tool. You might not understand what this has in connection to sexual temptations except you have had one reason or the other to stay at home all day doing nothing. Honestly, staying idle without a purpose can make you fall into a lot of temptations. Sexual temptations comes in different ways when you are idle.