Dating sometimes leads to lots of heart breaks, it is important we understand just a few things we can do to make any broken relationship henceforth less painful, life-changing and full of horror. Yes, the world has been cruel to some of us, however we have a responsibility to protect ourselves. Here are some things we should do:

1. Avoid having too much expectations
Too much expectations I mean having this 'Le Boo can never do that attitude . We just need to understand that perfect boo is also human and can make errors too! like duh! Just try a little bit to have this mind set that if its going to work its going to work and for it to work out you two need to work together. You could be in it 200% but Le Boo could just be having fun. Too much expectations usually is rooted in Selfishness which is a great killer of relationships Such is life dear.

2. Run when you still have a heart:
Sometimes you could see this little signs of *I am not serious with you* attitude. Kindly dust the sand off your shoes and RUN. You would save yourself the heart break by telling yourself the bitter truth. When someone loves you it is clear and visible for all to see. When the love is cold too, you can tell. Have a little self dignity, ask important questions so you can make the right decision before a decision is being made for you. Or you get ready to

3. Avoid premarital sex:
I know so many people will be like "What is that one now"?  When you really want to save your heart from unnecessary trouble, stay away from premarital sex. Sex is a beautiful thing and God created it to be binding force between a man and a woman (Married). Permit me to say that sex has a way of blocking your sense of judgement. I am a firm believer *of wait till the ring is on the finger!*. I want to remind you that Purity is possible.  That does not mean that your heart can't still get broken just that the pain is not as heavy as when you have done all the positions with him/her and maybe an abortion.



4. Get a Life:
The truth is so many of us make this silly mistake, because you are in a relationship you no longer have a life. No friends, zero social life, distance from family and loved ones. Chai! *shakinghead* . A relationship is not a license to be a fool now. Everywhere you are Lee Boo is just around the corner, you no longer socialize its just you and Lee Boo. You eat, breath and sleep Lee Boo. All your friends are now potential Lee Boo snatchers. The truth is simple, a good relationship is supposed to make you a better person not a worse person socially and in every area.

5. Define your relationship:
It is a common thing for guys to walk up to girls and express their desire to be with the other. Ask them this question "Why do you want to be with me?" That is a direct question that you need to have answers to. My dear, its important that the purpose of a relationship is said from the very beginning. At least if you both are playing with yourselves it will be defined, if you are going somewhere definite like getting married, good for you. An undefined relationship is a big root cause of heartbreak. I have seen issues with ladies who have been in relationships for years just for Le Boo to wake up one morning to say 'we were just dating after all i never promised you marriage'. Sorry love such is life, you will be wiser, next time i promise you.

6. Give your heart to God first:
The most important thing to do in life is to give your life and all to God. When you realize the depth of love that God has for you His love will be all that matters to you. When you have understood the kind of love that God has for you, it will be easier for you to notice fake love or lust. Gods love is all about action, He loved us and He gave His only possession. Love is not all about emotions and words, its about actions and its an investment.

7. Love yourself:
So many of us do not even know ourselves talk more of loving us. One of the most difficult question for most people to answer is "Who am I"? . What is your perception about yourself. If you were able to answer that question with confidence then congratulations!!!


Its important you know who you are and also love yourself. It is bad that you cannot even do things for yourself you rely on your partner for everything. Ladies and gentlemen, Le Boo must not buy you everything, buy things for yourself, treat yourself right. Its not a hard thing to spend quality time with yourself and when a man/woman treats you less it will be easy to walk away. Embrace yourself, tell your self every reason why you should be treated right.


Stop complaining about everything your weight, your color, your height etc, love yourself for who you are. The worlds view about Mr or Mrs Perfect shape, colour or figure is constantly changing. Just make sure you take care of yourself.
If you have gotten your heart broken before you need to heal after the Heart break and move on.  Even if your heart has broken before you can absolutely  Start again

I have been thinking about domestic violence in Christian homes for a long time now and I realized this" No two best friends will ever get married with the intention of hitting each other either with words or fists."
What could have happened that our once sweet love story turns violent in a moment.

This love was once true and pure for some people at least, but something just goes wrong and the love story turns sour with dangerous consequences. I will be discussing some of the causes of this domestic violence either with words or fists. I am one of those who believe it's not only hands that can hurt so badly. Words can have the exact same effect or even worse.
These are some of the causes I have seen so far:

Read more: 4 SIGNS OF AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

 1. Traditional beliefs

Some personal traditions can have a way of getting into our marriages and getting things messed up. Some people believe no woman is equal to a man no matter how old that woman is. This makes them feel their wives can be treated badly because they aren't just equal. They feel women should be controlled and dominated because they have been brought up to believe this and transfer this to their Christian marriage.

The marriage between two believers is scriptural based not based on traditional especially the traditions that glorify on sex about the other. God created us both male and female and in a Christian marriage the man is instructed to love his wife just as Christ loves the church. The love of Christ does not discriminate or values itself above the church rather he nurtures and gives himself for him. So many Christians find it difficult to let go of all of men's traditions they grew up with and renew their minds with the word of God. Are you going through abuse in your home? How often do you allow the word of God remove all those traditions you grew up knowing that are contrary to his word?

 2. Violent pattern from parents.

 Witnessing can mean seeing actual incidents of physical/and or sexual abuse. It also means  hearing threats or fighting noises from another room. Children may also observe the aftermath of physical abuse such as blood, bruises, tears, torn clothing, and broken items. Finally children aware may be of the tension in the home such as their mother’s fearfulness when the abuser’s car pulls into the driveway. Growing up in a home where abuse seems to be okay will make a child from the home transfer the circle of abuse into present marriage. Living consistently in that kind of environment makes a child feel its okay to abuse and intimidate others. It has been found out that children from violent homes feel that violence is the only way of resolving conflicts. That is honestly the only way they have seen almost all through their lives so they tend to handle issues that way too. It also makes them feel abuse is a form of love. It has been built into their subconscious minds so its a bit difficult to think differently.

In building a christian home it is therefore necessary to allow the word of God work in us. If we allow the Word of God which is powerful enough to change and liberate us work within us(Col 3:16), then we will not have abuse in Christian homes. It is also important that we allow the Holy Spirit give us self control in the control of our temper and anger. Every root of anger and the old man should be rooted out by the power of Christ.

All we need to do is to yield to the power of the Holy Spirit. Lets allow him work in us, we need to remember that human tradition is not what saved us, therefore we can't live according to the traditions of men Mark 7:8. Seeing abuse all through your life doesn't make it great or the right thing. Remember you are the redeemed of the Lord. You are a new creature therefore you are not ruled by the rules or traditions of the world.

What can you say about violence in Christian homes?

Source Abusive relationships  can be difficult to spot but will share a few helpful tips that will help both the abused and a friend or relative to the abused to know they are in for danger. Abusive relationships can manifest in different forms either physical, emotional, financial or sexual.  Your friend or sister or daughter who is being abused may find it very difficult to speak up but with these tips i will share here you will be able to identify an abusive relationship.

When i want to pretend like am serious. #Thelook

Happy new month to us all. In this month good and wonderful things will come our way and we will be blessed abundantly. Amen.


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