Dating sometimes leads to lots of heart breaks, it is important we understand just a few things we can do to make any broken relationship henceforth less painful, life-changing and full of horror. Yes, the world has been cruel to some of us, however we have a responsibility to protect ourselves. Here are some things we should do:

1. Avoid having too much expectations
Too much expectations I mean having this 'Le Boo can never do that attitude . We just need to understand that perfect boo is also human and can make errors too! like duh! Just try a little bit to have this mind set that if its going to work its going to work and for it to work out you two need to work together. You could be in it 200% but Le Boo could just be having fun. Too much expectations usually is rooted in Selfishness which is a great killer of relationships Such is life dear.

2. Run when you still have a heart:
Sometimes you could see this little signs of *I am not serious with you* attitude. Kindly dust the sand off your shoes and RUN. You would save yourself the heart break by telling yourself the bitter truth. When someone loves you it is clear and visible for all to see. When the love is cold too, you can tell. Have a little self dignity, ask important questions so you can make the right decision before a decision is being made for you. Or you get ready to

3. Avoid premarital sex:
I know so many people will be like "What is that one now"?  When you really want to save your heart from unnecessary trouble, stay away from premarital sex. Sex is a beautiful thing and God created it to be binding force between a man and a woman (Married). Permit me to say that sex has a way of blocking your sense of judgement. I am a firm believer *of wait till the ring is on the finger!*. I want to remind you that Purity is possible.  That does not mean that your heart can't still get broken just that the pain is not as heavy as when you have done all the positions with him/her and maybe an abortion.



4. Get a Life:
The truth is so many of us make this silly mistake, because you are in a relationship you no longer have a life. No friends, zero social life, distance from family and loved ones. Chai! *shakinghead* . A relationship is not a license to be a fool now. Everywhere you are Lee Boo is just around the corner, you no longer socialize its just you and Lee Boo. You eat, breath and sleep Lee Boo. All your friends are now potential Lee Boo snatchers. The truth is simple, a good relationship is supposed to make you a better person not a worse person socially and in every area.

5. Define your relationship:
It is a common thing for guys to walk up to girls and express their desire to be with the other. Ask them this question "Why do you want to be with me?" That is a direct question that you need to have answers to. My dear, its important that the purpose of a relationship is said from the very beginning. At least if you both are playing with yourselves it will be defined, if you are going somewhere definite like getting married, good for you. An undefined relationship is a big root cause of heartbreak. I have seen issues with ladies who have been in relationships for years just for Le Boo to wake up one morning to say 'we were just dating after all i never promised you marriage'. Sorry love such is life, you will be wiser, next time i promise you.

6. Give your heart to God first:
The most important thing to do in life is to give your life and all to God. When you realize the depth of love that God has for you His love will be all that matters to you. When you have understood the kind of love that God has for you, it will be easier for you to notice fake love or lust. Gods love is all about action, He loved us and He gave His only possession. Love is not all about emotions and words, its about actions and its an investment.

7. Love yourself:
So many of us do not even know ourselves talk more of loving us. One of the most difficult question for most people to answer is "Who am I"? . What is your perception about yourself. If you were able to answer that question with confidence then congratulations!!!


Its important you know who you are and also love yourself. It is bad that you cannot even do things for yourself you rely on your partner for everything. Ladies and gentlemen, Le Boo must not buy you everything, buy things for yourself, treat yourself right. Its not a hard thing to spend quality time with yourself and when a man/woman treats you less it will be easy to walk away. Embrace yourself, tell your self every reason why you should be treated right.


Stop complaining about everything your weight, your color, your height etc, love yourself for who you are. The worlds view about Mr or Mrs Perfect shape, colour or figure is constantly changing. Just make sure you take care of yourself.
If you have gotten your heart broken before you need to heal after the Heart break and move on.  Even if your heart has broken before you can absolutely  Start again

Have ever been in a relationship where you thought you would change the person or make them know more about Jesus? Yes sweety, you are not alone!!  Once upon a time in my life, I felt I was the Jesus he needed to become a better man. My relationship was like an IEP plan. I felt I had it all planned out,  I would always take him to church and teach him the importance of prayers and pray tirelessly for him. This sounds funny now!! Did it work, Hell No!!  In a short while, I needed that IEP  plan desperately. I want you to consider these questions before you get into that relationship with that unbeliever who you feel will only know Christ better through your relationship with them.

 There are a lot of possibilities of people who get into such relationships and were able to win the unbeliever over.  It takes a special grace not to be exhausted in the process. Looking at the picture of those two Oxens one is down while one is up.  What if the one down never decides to stand up? Over time the standing oxen will feel the need to lower a little to be able to talk with the oxen on the floor.  There are some things I want you to consider before you get into that evangelical relationship.

 1. Who will guide all decisions you make in relationship? So who will we be consulting when we want to make important decisions. Jesus or who?

 2. What standards will be relationships be built on? What standards are you going to build the relationship on, what foundation will it be built on?  Jesus or who?

 3. If you are lead to stop an habit will they understand?

 4. Will they understand some kingdom principles like tithing and all?

 5. Will there be true intimacy, how will you achieve that?

 6. When they start coming to church with you, is it really because they love Jesus or because they want to make you happy?

 7. Will you have to compromise?


Permit me to say this,  If you aren't strong enough to resist the temptation of dating an unbeliever then you might not be strong enough to win him/her  over.

Allow yourself to be led by God's Spirit in everything you do and in every decision you make. I have heard stories of a believer and a non believer who started out dating but today they are both on fire for the Lord.  God's ways are certainly not our way.  It may have worked for those people but hear this you might not be able to stand the Spiritual exhaustion that comes with it.

What do you think about an evangelistic relationship, should we give it a trial, what are the consequences?

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There are different ways conflicts that lead to a beautiful relationship or marriage breaking up. Conflicts are very natural in relationships but solving those conflicts seems to be the issue. Conflicts can either build up your relationship or it tears it down. It's a very powerful tool but as well dangerous. These are ways conflicts can hurt your happily ever after:

 1.  Trying to win every argument: Most times we want so hard to win in our conflict. We want to be given a golden medal maybe because we feel we deserve it. Its a relationship not an Olympics. It takes just more than being right to have it right.

 2.  Not apologizing: I know sometimes you could feel its absolutely not your place to offer an apology. Even when you are not wrong. Apologizing isn't a sign of weakness as it is seen as. Its a sign that you are ready to move past the situation.

 3.  Not forgiving: In conflicts it's important we learn to forgive and also let go. Holding on to what he said or she said  during arguments or conflicts wouldn't help. Forgive quickly and move on.

 4.  Stonewalling: This is the mother of all break ups in relationships. You just don't talk too much about it, you say its fine, you say you have forgiven but deep down you know its not okay. You just behave like there are so many walls around you that needs to be broken before things will get better again. You want the other partner to pay, its almost like a revenge strategy.

 5.  Attacking the person not the behavior: Most times in conflict situations we are so emotional or angry or trying so hard to prove a point that we begin to attack the person and not the act. Its always important you watch out for that trait in your conflicting situations because if not checked it could cause you to part ways.

So friends what ways do you think conflicts can destroy relationships?

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This question has been on my mind for some time now. When you catch your spouse cheating, how do you handle it??. After one saga on Reddit, about a man who documented his wife's affair. I began to wonder, how far is too far to handle a cheating spouse. I have seen so many hilarious things people have done. Which made me ask myself is it right?? I saw so many but these ones cracked me up a lot.

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