Have you ever had something like "I AM A VIRGIN, I AM A GOOD WOMAN/MAN".  I have heard that severally and that's the reason for this post. Being chaste or keeping yourself for marriage is indeed a very good thing, i am one of those few people who believe so much in it.  I have also come across a lot of  myths about Virginity, it's beginning to give me serious cause for concern.


MYTH 1: Virginity translates to good character

So many virgins stay in this wonder world for a long time thinking it is actually the right thing.  There is a strong need to work on your character. Your character is indeed your charm. It is the beauty everyone sees and keep seeing for a long time.  Being a Virgin does not  translate to having a good character that can translate to good and healthy life long relationships. What draws a man or a woman to you is your character. Develop good and Godly characters  that can stand the test of time.

MYTH 2 : Virginity keeps a relationship

Well, I am not saying that sex keeps a relationship am just saying that it is a negative believe that once you are a Virgin you have the ability to have a good relationship which will result to a great marriage.  Can we just wake up! the fact that you are a Virgin does not mean that alone will keep your relationship.  There are a lot of things that can keep a marriage or relationship, and certainly its not Virginity. How about trust, how about love, how about understanding your partner etc.

Its a good thing you are keeping your self for that special person, but come on! There are other things you need to know about keeping a relationship going. Haven't you heard of people who married as virgins but are divorced or separated? It takes a lot to keep relationships going.

MYTH 3: Being a Virgin means am Holy

This is a big mistake that no one should think about. So many virgins masturbate on a regular basis, fantasize about sex, indulge in oral sex and all. Purity itself is not just purity of the body, but purity all round.  Virginity does not mean that you are better or Holier than a person who is not.  Haven't you heard of Rahab, Mary and a lot more women in the Bible that God used for his work.  Haven't you seen prostitutes who repented and God sees them as Holy and righteous.

Not having your hemen penetrated does not mean you are to be used by  God or automatically a heaven candidate. God requires total Holiness and righteousness everyday. A good relationship with God makes you a person he can use. Any one who believes in God and works in his ways will not perish. No matter how bad one's past is God is ever ready to clean one up.  There is something called secondary Virginity, people who have once indulged in sex make a decision never to do it again. So dear Virgins, a life that pleases God in body and mind is what you should yearn for.

MYTH 4: Virgins are frigid and have low sex drive 

This is so not true, a lot of virgins have strong sex drive but have just made a decision to wait.  Waiting for sex does not mean you won't have a great sex life in marriage (or am i wrong, married people? *rolls eyes*)
Some people here in Africa believe that most virgins are circumcised. Circumcision which is a bad thing does not mean that it will keep a woman grounded till marriage.

In conclusion friends, it is a good thing to wait but while waiting work on other areas of your  life.  Build virtues that will stand the test of time. Learn other skills and  get better everyday.

So friends, what myths about Virginity have you heard about?