Hey loves,

Happy new year! This year has been declared to be our year of Notable Miracles.

On my youtube channel, I talked about how I met my husband. I am so excited to share this beautiful story with you.

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When people you aren't in a relationship with give you a compliment, your reaction is always good. We all love compliments. It's a gift. It shows we really are seen, appreciated or even worth been thanked for being who we are. In most relationship, especially the ones that have been long term there could be a reduced amount of compliment. These compliments don't just die for some it just goes right out of the window and everyone begins to feel entitled to whatever their partner is supposed to do or give.

Compliments are Powerful in maintaining and sustaining a great relationship. Compliments are important, it's like the good your relationship feeds on. When we thank our partners for being or doing something it makes them want to do more.

Compliments makes your partner do more. The reason why you seem to complain of your partner not doing anything for you could be that you may not be complimenting for the things they do right. The strengths of your partner should be in front of you more, they should be praised. They should be appreciated and be made to be a big deal. Behaviours that are rewarded gets repeated. Don't say "You haven't done what I really want". Appreciate the little they do. Appreciate the ones that could seem little. Make it a big deal. It should be appreciated. It shouldn't fall into the class of  "It's her or his responsibilities". Forgetting that doing responsibility over and over again takes a lot of commitment and dedication. Appreciate the little, the almost everyday things that could almost seem insignificant now. They will want to do more, your partner will want to be more.

 Compliments help your relationship in times of conflict. In times when things are not as they should be. Past compliments makes your partner know you sincerely and truthfully love them.

Give more compliments, notice the things you have stopped noticing. The things that made you fall in love with each other should still be appreciated. The efforts they make in becoming better lovers should be celebrated and appreciated. Appreciate the daily routine that could have become their responsibility.

Don't allow over familiarity and areas that seem not to be perfect affect areas that are really good. Give more, givers don't lack. Give and it shall be given unto you.

Give more compliments and you will get more compliments. Stay blessed and enjoy your compliments filled relationship.

When people you aren't in a relationship with give you a compliment, your reaction is always good. We all love compliments. It's a gift. It shows we really are seen, appreciated or even worth been thanked for being who we are. In most relationship, especially the ones that have been long term there could be a reduced amount of compliment. These compliments don't just die for some it just goes right out of the window and everyone begins to feel entitled to whatever their partner is supposed to do or give.

Compliments are Powerful in maintaining and sustaining a great relationship. Compliments are important, it's like the good your relationship feeds on. When we thank our partners for being or doing something it makes them want to do more.

Compliments makes your partner do more. The reason why you seem to complain of your partner not doing anything for you could be that you may not be complimenting for the things they do right. The strengths of your partner should be in front of you more, they should be praised. They should be appreciated and be made to be a big deal. Behaviours that are rewarded gets repeated. Don't say "You haven't done what I really want". Appreciate the little they do. Appreciate the ones that could seem little. Make it a big deal. It should be appreciated. It shouldn't fall into the class of  "It's her or his responsibilities". Forgetting that doing responsibility over and over again takes a lot of commitment and dedication. Appreciate the little, the almost everyday things that could almost seem insignificant now. They will want to do more, your partner will want to be more.

 Compliments help your relationship in times of conflict. In times when things are not as they should be. Past compliments makes your partner know you sincerely and truthfully love them.

Give more compliments, notice the things you have stopped noticing. The things that made you fall in love with each other should still be appreciated. The efforts they make in becoming better lovers should be celebrated and appreciated. Appreciate the daily routine that could have become their responsibility.

Don't allow over familiarity and areas that seem not to be perfect affect areas that are really good. Give more, givers don't lack. Give and it shall be given unto you.

Give more compliments and you will get more compliments. Stay blessed and enjoy your compliments filled relationship.

Hi blogloves, it's been a long time. Hope I still have you guys here. I am here to continue sharing what the Lord places in my heart as regards love, life, relationships and personal development. 2019 is here and  I will be doing a lot of posting here because I wouldn't allow this vision to die by Gods grace.

Thanks to all my subscribers who have been with me through thick and thin. 2019 is going to be amazing because God has declared it for us as our year of laughter.

When I heard that, I knew it was meant for me. 2018 was a year of deeper depths in God. I learned a lot of vital lessons I will be sharing with you all. Most importantly God taught me the power of giving him back whatever he gave me because every thing is his. It hurts but God is supreme over all. He is all knowing and very intentional about us. So this is to walking blindly with him, getting to know various aspects of him I never knew.

I got to understand this thing called supernatural supply. I began to see resources flow into my hands from different people and places especially when I needed them. God is a good father, he knows, he sees and he has supplied all that you need no matter what phase of life you are in.

Ministry was a bit not the same. I learned to play by his rules, live his kind of life and trust him through my weaknesses. The more I realized my helplessness the more he stepped in, taking me by the lands and whispering his love.

2019 is here, Gabby will be posting every Thursday. I will be sharing what he leads me to share. We will certainly laugh together.

What is 2019 to you? What word are you working with? Enjoy this ride!!

Blame shifting in relationships

On a good Wednesday night, I told myself I was done with this relationship. I was done trying to keep this relationship sexually pure. The relationship had to be the real reason why I was not enjoying my relationship with Jesus anymore. We were beginning to kiss and touch again. I was ready to walk away, ready to throw in the towel in this Christ founded relationship. I was tired of compromising. Meeting sister Dorcas was so I could get the last counsel and wanted all the fingers pointed at this great Christian guy. I didn't want to take any of the blame so I went for my counseling session with Sister Dorcas.

IS RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT SEX POSSIBLE?

You have issues too

Sister Dorcas just visited my campus fellowship that evening. We just had a great interactive session about having a Christ-centered Courtship and keeping it holy. The word Holy! Holy!! Holy!!! Was ringing over and over in my head. I wasn't going to leave this meeting without speaking with her. I wanted her to counsel me again about this relationship of mine. This relationship was certainly the root of my sexual falling and rising. I met sister Dorcas and told her how it was the guy's fault. How he was the one leading me away from my love for God. How he was the one who isn't sticking to the boundaries... Blablabla. She listened to me and after my long epistle she told me something that shocked me "sister what if it's all your fault?"

Deal with your roots

My eyes grew bigger and rounder. I was amazed. How could all this be my fault? I don't want to kiss, I just want to live holy. I know my relationship is rooted in Christ but these sins just seem to be going nowhere. She ended that session by telling me this "deal with your sexual root". My sexual root? How? Why? What? What does it mean? I wasn't sure but I knew I used to be involved in a lot of things in my past. I know there was pornographic videos, masturbating and a whole lot of childhood curiosities being answered by experimenting without guidance.

So I kind of started going back to my past to dig out this root. I thought I was just to move on and got very holy relationship / Courtship before marriage. I wanted all the fruits of a cleansed heart and I wanted all the benefits of having a sexually pure singlehood but I had a root I hadn't dealt with. Deep roots of lust. So here is it sweetie "deal with the root".
What is the root of your sexual kiss kiss, touch touch journey? If you don't handle these roots and allow the spirit of God uproot them out then you might be dealing with a time bomb. All you need to start feeling lovey-dovey again and boom! You begin to lust again. Most times we try to deal with the fruits instead of the root. Why did you start having sex in the first place? What led you to make that decision? What led to your first time ever MASTURBATING? Therein lies a root.
When I carried out a little research, I realized that getting to the root of the problem helps you deal with this issue of not being able to remain chaste in Courtship. How did you lose your virginity and why? These are important questions to answer. When does lust get triggered in your heart? How does it all begin? What events happen before you get sexual involved? Deal with these issues personally and collectively.

More than physical boundaries

Physical boundaries are important for you to stay chaste but how about boundaries of your heart. The heart is where the real issue starts from. Sometimes we think just dealing with it physically is enough. Deal with it from your heart, from the real issue. Our lives are not led from the external, it's from the internal out. So when you haven't shifted your mind and focus on thinking of sexual thoughts then you are likely to fall again. Inside your heart is the main issue, it is the main problem. Deal with it. The question you might as is HOW?. Its very simple, renew your mind and change your thought patterns. You are in control of your thoughts they are never in control of you.
Your thoughts can change
Try this little exercise, shut your eyes for 2 minutes and think about the best day of your life. The happiest moment ever, that moment you felt so proud of yourself. Focus on that thought and nothing else. You can tell that suddenly you begin to feel happy. You begin to feel so joyful. Try repeating this exercise for the most annoying day of your life. Focus on that annoying day and you will tell that there will be a change in how you feel. Your thoughts can be changed, they even change all the time. That's one reason why you cannot even rely on them. In there is the real issue. Take responsibility for your thoughts, when you take responsibility for them. It will certainly change your life and lead you on this path to sexual pure relationships.

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