Distractions

We often talk about Abraham as the Father of Faith. We celebrate his boldness, his move to an unknown land, and his radical obedience to God. But before we look at Abraham, we need to look at his father, Terah.

In Genesis 11:31, the Bible tells us something profound that we often skip over: “And Terah took Abram his son... and they went forth together to go from Ur of the Chaldeans into the land of Canaan; but when they came to Haran, they settled there.”

Did you catch that? Terah started the journey to Canaan before Abraham did. He made the move. He had the right direction. But for some reason, he stopped halfway. He settled in Haran, and the Bible tells us that is where he died.

The question I want to pose to you today is this: Why was the journey incomplete?

The Danger of Settling Halfway

The Bible does not give us every detail of why Terah stopped, but it gives us a massive lesson on distractions.

As we navigate this year, distractions will come in various forms. Most often, they do not look like evil things; they come through the things we love, the areas where we have invested our treasures, and the places where our emotions are tied.

The enemy does not always try to stop you from starting; he just tries to get you to settle in a place that is not the land God asked you to go. He wants you to stop at good enough so you never reach destiny.

Your Obedience is Transgenerational

Here is the weight of the matter: Terahs stop was not just about him. Because he stopped in Haran, the journey to Canaan was delayed for a generation.

I want you to hear this clearly: Your obedience is transgenerational. It is not just for you. Your children, your grandchildren, and people you have not even met yet are tied to your Yes. When God puts an instruction in your heart whether it is taking your business to a new level, breaking an addiction, or simply starting a morning devotion with your family it is a lifeline for a generation.

If you nurse distractions, you are not just stalling your own life; you are passing a baton of halfway to the next generation. We see it all the time: children fighting the same weaknesses of the flesh gossip, immorality, lies, or pride that their parents refused to deal with.

2026: The Year of Finishing Strong

I do not know what distractions you faced last year. I had my fair share. But let 2026 be different.

Think of a woman in labor. When she is in that room, she is not chit chatting or looking for side projects. She has one singular, painful, intense focus: to birth. She stays on it until the promise is in her arms.

This year, be intentional:

• Identify the Haran in your life: Where have you settled because it was easier than continuing to Canaan?

• Guard your heart: Be wary of distractions coming from the things you love.

• Remember the stakes: Realize that peoples lives will not reach their full potential if you do not obey.

God has called you out to make a name for Himself through your life. Do not let a seed of distraction in your emotions stop you from conquering new territories. Be the one in your lineage who receives the grace for finishing.

Move from where you are. Move toward the promise. Finish strong.

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I want to ask you a question that sounded a lot simpler to me a year ago than it does today.

Who are you?

Close your eyes for a second and answer that. What came to your mind first? Was it your job title? Your role as a parent or a spouse? Was it your biggest achievement, or perhaps the struggle you’re currently walking through?

For a long time, my answer was tied to what I did. I was my career. I was my "usefulness" to others. I was the person who had it all figured out. But 2025 taught me a brutal, beautiful lesson: If your identity is tied to a season, it will change when the weather does. If it’s tied to a job, it will vanish with a layoff. If it’s tied to an achievement, it will crumble under the weight of your next mistake.

 The "If" Test

We like to think we are solid, but most of us build our houses on sand. Let’s do a heart check, the kind that hurts a little but sets you free.

* If you lost your child today, who are you?

* If your most valuable possession was stripped away, who are you?

* If your career, the thing you’ve known your whole life, suddenly ended, who are you?

If the answer is "I am nothing" or "I am lost," then your identity wasn't actually in God. It was in the gift, not the Giver.

It is so easy to worship the blessings and call it "faith." But true identity is what remains when the room is empty and the accolades stop. As believers, we are called to a radical way of living where our "who" is never determined by our "where."

Grounded in the Eternal

The truth is, we aren't just living for this earthly timeline. We are children of the Most High, and our purpose and future aren't just tied to what we can see, touch, or deposit in a bank. Our life is eternal

When you draw your identity from the Eternal, you become unshakeable. Why? Because you are drawing from the only thing in the universe that cannot be taken from you.

* God’s love for you doesn't fluctuate based on your productivity.

* His adoption of you isn't pending your next success.

* His view of you isn't skewed by your current "not-so-sure-what-I'm-doing" era.

 Moving Into the Present

In 2026, I am learning to live for the present as a child of God, period. I am stepping out of the "career identity" and into the "Kingdom identity."

I am no longer letting my struggles define me, nor am I letting my family or my future dreams become my idols. They are beautiful parts of my life, but they are not my life. My life is hidden in Christ.

So, I’ll ask you again: Who are you?

If everything you’ve worked for disappeared tomorrow, would you still be whole? If the answer is no, it’s okay. I’ve been there. But let’s use this year to rebuild on the only Foundation that doesn't shift. Let’s awaken to the truth that we are loved, we are chosen, and we are His long before we ever do a single thing for the world to see.

They don't really warn you about the years that break you open.

If you had asked me on January 1st, 2025, where I’d be today, I would have given you a checklist of achievements and a steady trajectory. Instead, 2025 became the year I doubted everything I have ever believed. It wasn't just a "rough patch", it was a complete dismantling of my foundations.

I spent months grappling with personal struggles that made me question my worth, my faith, and the very ground I stood on. I dealt with disappointments that felt like a series of closed doors, each one louder than the last. I had to learn the agonizing art of letting go, releasing the life I thought I was supposed to have to make room for a reality I didn’t yet understand.

The hardest part was walking away from my career. It was the only identity I’d known for years. Stepping out of that "sure thing" and into this "I’m not quite sure what I’m doing" era has been a wild, humbling ride. There’s a specific kind of vulnerability in telling people you’re "figuring it out," but in that uncertainty, I found a freedom I didn't know existed.

I stopped trying to be the "fixer" for the world and finally turned my heart toward home. I stopped performing for everyone else and started embracing the raw, quiet beauty of my family. I realized that being "there" for people matters very little if I’m not present for the people who love me most. 

I’m not entering this year with a "New Year, New Me" mantra. I’m entering it with a holy mission.

After a year of feeling like everything was ending, I realize now that 2025 was just clearing the soil. I am moving into 2026 with one singular, unshakable goal: To be everything God has called me to be.

I am done playing small. I am done letting my dreams sit in the "someday" pile because I’m afraid of what people might think. This is the year of awakening every dead hope and every stopped dream. If it’s been dormant, I’m waking it up. If it’s been silenced, I’m giving it a voice.

I might not have the full map yet, but I know who holds the compass.

Here’s to the resurrection of everything we thought we lost.

 I wrote about being depressed in 2018, and at some point, I stopped attending church. If you haven’t read that post, please take some time to do so. Today, I want to share a bit more about what really triggered the depression I battled "ISOLATION"

In 2018, I found myself at a very low point. I had just turned 27 and I wasn’t married. That may not seem like a crisis to everyone, but for me, it felt like a personal heartbreak. I couldn’t understand why God wasn’t answering my prayers. I had been faithful, prayerful, and hopeful—yet nothing seemed to change.

What made it harder was seeing my peers—close friends and cousins—getting married one after another. It was like everyone else’s prayers were being answered while mine seemed to be stuck in heaven’s waiting room. I didn’t dare ask God “why,” but deep down, I was confused, hurt, and even angry.

That anger festered. I became withdrawn. I stopped going to church. Depression slowly crept in, and I began to feel like God had overlooked me. I thought to myself, “I’m a child of God—shouldn’t that count for something? Don’t I *deserve* to be married by now?”

Then came a turning point.

One morning, I knelt to pray—broken, desperate, and in tears. I had exhausted all my options. I had done everything I knew to do. Nothing worked. But that morning, in my weakest moment, I chose to pray one more time. I poured out my heart before God.

And then, in the middle of my tears, I heard a question so clear it stopped me in my tracks:

“Why do you want to get married?”

I froze. It was as if heaven had thrown the question right back at me.

I paused and thought deeply. Why *did* I want to get married so badly?

To my surprise, I couldn’t come up with a genuine answer beyond the societal expectations and personal desires. There was nothing rooted in purpose. Nothing aligned with God's Kingdom. Just my own wants.

Then a scripture came to mind:  

Matthew 6:33 – “Seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.”

That was the moment my perspective shifted. I realized that marriage was never meant to be just about me. It was meant to be a tool for fulfilling God's purpose. My marriage wasn’t supposed to be centered on my desires—but on His plan.

That day, I surrendered. I laid down my dreams, timelines, comparisons, and expectations at His feet. It didn’t happen overnight, but with time, my heart began to align with God’s will. I found peace—not in getting what I wanted, but in trusting the One who knows best.

And then, something amazing happened.

On December 31st, 2018, I got engaged.

Not because I had pushed hard enough, cried long enough, or been “good” enough—but because I finally aligned with God’s heart and plan.

What You Can Learn from My Journey

If you’re a Christian feeling stuck, overlooked, or discouraged in any area of your life—especially in waiting seasons—here are three lessons I learned that I hope will encourage you:

1. Align with God’s Will:

   Don’t compare your journey to others. Life is not a competition. Trust that God’s timing for *you* is perfect.

2. Examine Your Motives:  

   Ask yourself why you're praying certain prayers. Could there be selfishness or fear driving your desires?

3. Seek the Kingdom First:

   Put God’s plan above your own. His will is always greater, always better, and always for your good.

Are You in a Waiting Season?

If this post resonated with you, don’t keep it to yourself! Share it with a friend who needs encouragement. And if you’re navigating a difficult season of waiting, I’d love to hear your story—drop a comment below or send me a message.  

Let’s grow together in surrender, faith, and purpose.  

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You’re not alone—and your waiting is not wasted.

Can God Reveal Your Future Spouse Through Dreams?

Hey, family! Welcome back to the blog. If you're in your single season and desiring to know God's will for your marriage, this post is for you! One question I see a lot in my inbox and comment section is: Can God reveal my future spouse through dreams? Let's talk about it.

Can God Speak Through Dreams?

Yes! God can definitely speak to us through dreams. The Bible is filled with examples of God communicating through dreams—think of Joseph, Daniel, and even Mary’s husband, Joseph. Dreams are one of the many ways God can guide us, including visions, an audible voice, or an inner witness from the Holy Spirit.

But here’s the thing: Not every dream is from God!

Be Careful With Dreams About Your Future Spouse

A lot of singles get excited when they dream about someone they like, thinking it’s a divine confirmation that this person is their God-ordained spouse. But pause for a moment. Just because you had a dream about marrying someone doesn’t automatically mean they are “the one.” Why? Because dreams can be influenced by different things:

• Your thoughts and emotions – If you’ve been thinking about a particular person a lot, your subconscious mind can bring them into your dreams.
• External influences – Things you watched, read, or even discussed before sleeping can shape your dreams.
• The enemy’s deception – Yes, the devil can manipulate dreams too! Not every spiritual dream is from God. Some dreams are meant to deceive and distract you from God's actual plan.

Test Every Spirit

The Bible tells us in 1 John 4:1, “Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God.” The same applies to dreams. Just because a dream feels real or vivid doesn't mean it's from God. You need discernment.

How Do You Confirm If a Dream Is From God?

If you had a dream about someone being your future spouse, don’t make any hasty conclusions. Instead:

1. Pray about it – Ask God for clarity and confirmation through His Word and in your spirit.
2. Compare it with Scripture – God’s will never contradicts His Word. If the dream goes against biblical principles, it's not from Him.
3. Seek wise counsel – Talk to spiritually mature mentors or pastors who can help you discern God’s voice.
4. Wait for confirmation – One dream is not enough to make a life-altering decision. God often confirms His will in multiple ways.

My Personal Experience

When I was single, I had many dreams about different people—dreams where I saw myself marrying them, starting a family, and building a future together. But guess what? I’m not married to any of those people today! In fact, when I met my husband, I didn’t have a single dream about him before we got together. Instead, I had peace, clarity, and confirmation through other means. This just goes to show that while dreams can be significant, they are not the only way God speaks.

Final Thoughts

God can reveal your future spouse through dreams, but He can also lead you through peace, wise counsel, and His Word. Don’t base your entire marital destiny on a single dream—test it, pray about it, and seek confirmation. Remember, marriage is a lifetime covenant, and you want to be 100% sure you’re following God’s plan, not just your emotions or desires.

Have you ever had a dream about a future spouse? How did you handle it? Let’s chat in the comments!

And hey, if you found this post helpful, don’t forget to share it with a friend. Stay blessed! 😊

As a Christian woman or man, seeking God’s will in relationships is one of the most important things you can do. Love is beautiful, but it can also be confusing—how do you truly know if God wants you to be with someone? Thankfully, He doesn’t leave us without guidance. Here are seven key ways God may confirm that a relationship is His plan for you.