As a Christian woman or man, seeking God’s will in relationships is one of the most important things you can do. Love is beautiful, but it can also be confusing—how do you truly know if God wants you to be with someone? Thankfully, He doesn’t leave us without guidance. Here are seven key ways God may confirm that a relationship is His plan for you.
1. A Sense of Peace and Confirmation Through Others
One of the strongest indicators that God is in a relationship is the peace He gives you about it. Philippians 4:6-7 says:
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
If you feel constant unease, doubt, or anxiety about a person, that could be the Holy Spirit prompting you to take a step back. But when God is leading you into a relationship, He will grant you an inner peace, even if challenges arise.
Additionally, God often speaks through wise counsel. Proverbs 11:14 reminds us, “Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” If the people you trust—mentors, family, or close friends—see red flags, don’t ignore them. But if they affirm the relationship and see godly fruit, it could be a confirmation from the Lord.
2. A Shared Vision for the Future
A relationship that is from God will not only have emotional and spiritual connection but also a shared sense of direction. Amos 3:3 asks, “Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?”
You and your partner should be aligned in core values, faith, and long-term goals. If he envisions a life that doesn’t include God at the center, while you desire a Christ-filled marriage, that’s a warning sign.
Ask yourself:
Do we both want to honor God in our relationship?
Do we encourage each other’s spiritual growth?
Do our life goals complement each other?
If the answers are yes, that’s a strong confirmation that God may be writing your love story.
3. A Willingness to Invest in the Relationship
True, godly love requires effort and sacrifice. Jesus said in John 15:13, “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”
While you shouldn’t force someone to love or pursue you, a man who genuinely values you will make an effort to nurture the relationship. He will:
✔ Prioritize time with you
✔ Communicate openly and honestly
✔ Be willing to make necessary sacrifices
✔ Take steps toward a future together
Love isn’t just about feelings—it’s about commitment. If a man consistently makes excuses, avoids responsibility, or shows little effort to build a strong foundation, he may not be the one God has for you.
4. Practical Circumstances Aligning with God’s Will
God’s will isn’t just spiritual; He also works through practical details. Proverbs 16:9 says:
“A man’s heart plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.”
If a relationship seems constantly hindered by circumstances—such as long-distance challenges, timing issues, or unresolved obstacles—it could be God closing the door. But when He brings two people together, He makes a way for it to work.
That doesn’t mean the relationship will be free of difficulties, but there will be clear opportunities for growth instead of constant roadblocks that push you apart.
5. Growth Through Challenges, Not Destruction
Every couple faces trials, but the right relationship will strengthen you, not break you. Romans 5:3-4 reminds us:
“We also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.”
A God-ordained relationship will refine you in healthy ways. Challenges should lead to greater understanding, patience, and reliance on Christ.
If conflicts bring you closer instead of tearing you apart, if problems lead to solutions instead of endless pain, and if the relationship helps you become more like Christ, it’s a sign that God is at work.
6. Biblical Alignment and Godly Character
God will never confirm a relationship that contradicts His Word. 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns us, “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.”
A godly relationship is built on:
✔ Faith in Christ
✔ Integrity and honesty
✔ The fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23)
✔ A commitment to biblical principles
If a man draws you away from God, encourages compromise in your faith, or exhibits ungodly behavior, that is not God’s best for you. But if his life and character reflect Christ’s love, that is a beautiful confirmation.
7. Mutual Interest, Commitment, and Progress
One of the simplest yet most overlooked signs of God’s confirmation is mutuality. A healthy relationship is never one-sided—it involves both people putting in effort.
Too often, people hold onto a relationship where they are the only ones investing. But love should be reciprocated. 1 Corinthians 14:33 reminds us that “God is not the author of confusion, but of peace.” If a relationship is full of uncertainty, mixed signals, or unbalanced effort, it may not be from God.
A God-led relationship will have:
✔ Genuine interest from both sides
✔ Consistent communication
✔ A shared desire to grow together
✔ A natural progression toward marriage
If you constantly feel like you’re chasing someone, it’s time to pause and ask, “Is this truly from God?” When God brings the right person into your life, you won’t have to force the connection—it will come naturally.
Final Encouragement
If God is in your relationship, He will confirm it in multiple ways—through peace, wise counsel, alignment with His Word, and practical circumstances. If you're struggling with doubt, seek the Lord in prayer, trust His timing, and remember His promise in Proverbs 3:5-6:
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
The right relationship will reflect Christ’s love, commitment, and purpose. Don’t settle for confusion—God’s best for you will be worth the wait.
