In 2018, I found myself at a very low point. I had just turned 27 and I wasn’t married. That may not seem like a crisis to everyone, but for me, it felt like a personal heartbreak. I couldn’t understand why God wasn’t answering my prayers. I had been faithful, prayerful, and hopeful—yet nothing seemed to change.

What made it harder was seeing my peers—close friends and cousins—getting married one after another. It was like everyone else’s prayers were being answered while mine seemed to be stuck in heaven’s waiting room. I didn’t dare ask God “why,” but deep down, I was confused, hurt, and even angry.

That anger festered. I became withdrawn. I stopped going to church. Depression slowly crept in, and I began to feel like God had overlooked me. I thought to myself, “I’m a child of God—shouldn’t that count for something? Don’t I *deserve* to be married by now?”

Then came a turning point.

One morning, I knelt to pray—broken, desperate, and in tears. I had exhausted all my options. I had done everything I knew to do. Nothing worked. But that morning, in my weakest moment, I chose to pray one more time. I poured out my heart before God.

And then, in the middle of my tears, I heard a question so clear it stopped me in my tracks:

“Why do you want to get married?”

I froze. It was as if heaven had thrown the question right back at me.

I paused and thought deeply. Why *did* I want to get married so badly?

To my surprise, I couldn’t come up with a genuine answer beyond the societal expectations and personal desires. There was nothing rooted in purpose. Nothing aligned with God's Kingdom. Just my own wants.

Then a scripture came to mind:  

Matthew 6:33 – “Seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.”

That was the moment my perspective shifted. I realized that marriage was never meant to be just about me. It was meant to be a tool for fulfilling God's purpose. My marriage wasn’t supposed to be centered on my desires—but on His plan.

That day, I surrendered. I laid down my dreams, timelines, comparisons, and expectations at His feet. It didn’t happen overnight, but with time, my heart began to align with God’s will. I found peace—not in getting what I wanted, but in trusting the One who knows best.

And then, something amazing happened.

On December 31st, 2018, I got engaged.

Not because I had pushed hard enough, cried long enough, or been “good” enough—but because I finally aligned with God’s heart and plan.

What You Can Learn from My Journey

If you’re a Christian feeling stuck, overlooked, or discouraged in any area of your life—especially in waiting seasons—here are three lessons I learned that I hope will encourage you:

1. Align with God’s Will:

   Don’t compare your journey to others. Life is not a competition. Trust that God’s timing for *you* is perfect.

2. Examine Your Motives:  

   Ask yourself why you're praying certain prayers. Could there be selfishness or fear driving your desires?

3. Seek the Kingdom First:

   Put God’s plan above your own. His will is always greater, always better, and always for your good.

Are You in a Waiting Season?

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